By now, we all must have heard that Selena Gomez and The Weeknd broke up. You also must have heard that Selena Gomez and Justin Bieber are hanging out again, sparking reconciliation rumors. But now, we’ve learned exactly how the breakup went down, and it’s honestly kind of sad. According to TMZ, Selena Gomez and The Weeknd’s breakup was over the phone. The Weeknd was apparently the one to call things off, saying their relationship lost its passion.

Gomez and Tesfaye’s relationship had apparently been losing its spark since the summer, according to TMZ. As previously reported, their conflicting schedules caused a lot of distance, and that distance apparently made their passion fizzle out. TMZ reports The Weeknd felt it was unfair to be committed to a relationship that lost its passion, so he called Gomez and ended things over the phone. They reportedly ended the relationship amicably and have been in contact a couple of times since breaking up.

Selena has been seen around with her ex Justin Bieber a lot lately. They have been bike riding, attending church together, and she also showed her support by attending his hockey game.